How to be accepting is part of our intrinsic Nature

"Though I do believe we are all capable of 'good,' I tend to think we are more evil than good and society forces us to sublimate it and/or different religions/spiritual praxes condition us otherwise."
We really cannot know for certain if that's ture, or if we are inherently good. Maybe we're not inherently anything! And of course, what do we mean when we use the terms, "Evil" or "Good"? She noted, "I know it reflects a sad state of mind and heart." But I really don't think so. We are all making the best choices and drawing the best conclusions we can, given the evidence with which life presents us.
What is it about your life at this moment that you just can't accept? Is it

What if you accepted everything? Would that be a receipt for disaster, or a prescription for Enlightenment? Read on and discover how to be accepting is part of our Inherent Nature. Then why don't we?
financial? your physical condition? your age? your weight? some situation you are involved in? your work?
When we were small, some of what came to us was crushing and overwhelming. We were little people in a big person's world. We felt things with an intensity that might not have been at all intended. And so we learned to buffer or filter what life brought us. This was a survivalist adaptation, and served us well in our vulnerability.

Now we are now adults and no longer as vulnerable as we once were. Unfortunately, we carry that childhood vulnerability unconsciously around with us and will need to do some inner healing work to stop identifying with our wounded child and realize that our adult nature is strong enough to deal with whatever comes into our lives.

Accepting means being willing to allow life to happen in and around us without trying to stop or control it. Of course there are things and situations which we will need to reject -- or rather, choose to reject: Those things which would do us or others harm, be they beliefs or actions. Fortunately our Inherent Wisdom is there to assist us in discerning what those things are and so we can make the choice to avoid or accept them.

Try saying this to or about someone with whom you have a relationship: "I accept you just the way you are." Notice what saying that brings to mind. If you are observant, you may notice that some things come to mind that are definitely NOT accepting. You may discover that in fact there are several areas in which you have "druthers" about this other person: "I'd rather they didn't smoke." I wish they didn’t snore, pick their nose, talk so much, come on so strongly, drive so fast, spend so much money, wear their hair that way, wear so much makeup, etc., etc. Make a list of all the things you DON'T accept about that person and see if you can practice accepting one of them for a week. Then move on to the next. You may discover a huge shift in the dynamics of your relationship if you try this. Acceptance invites intimacy. Rejection or judgment keeps intimacy at a distance. Rejection may never come out into the open, as in active hostility or argument; but it lies there as a fog in which the relationship lives.

Do the same for yourself. Say: "I accept myself just the way I am."Then notice what comes out that you DON'T accept about yourself and work on one of those for a week. I don't like or accept my grumpiness; my weight; my inferior education; my low energy; my low salary,: my "bad thoughts" about sex; my lack of interest in sports, etc. Then just go for a week saying I accept that aspect of myself. See what might happen in your own inner life.
Your inherent nature is to accept. You learned to not accept because you got hurt, or because you were taught that it isn't safe to be accepting. ("Don’t take candy from strangers.") Now, however, it is time to undo those restrictions and allow your accepting nature to emerge.

If I accept this it will never change!” By accepting something that you currently experience as negative, you may discover that it isn't actually negative or harmful and that it has value or worth or even pleasure in it. On the other hand, if it turns out to be actually harmful, your acceptance does not mean that you cannot change it; in fact, the first step in meaningful change is acceptance. Without accepting a situation, there is no way you can constructively change it. You will be reacting to the situation as a victim and not in a position to actually make a change. You will be reacting to your negation and trying to change what is “out there," when rejection is in fact your own inner response. Once you have reoriented your response from rejecting to accepting, THEN you can go on and make any needed or wanted changes. But you are doing so after your have taken responsibility and ownership of the situation by accepting it. I can only change what I have accepted.

So that :Accept; then change. Realize this aspect of your Inherent Nature and you will discover a great power.

I can only react. And reaction does not lead to change.

good luck.........

Are you living as healthy as you can?

You added fresh vegetables and fruits. You cut back on all the sugar and fried foods. You even gave up a lot of your caffeine and opted for health and sports drinks. You stopped eating fast food or ordering the greasy overloaded dinners at restaurants. You even carry your own home made lunch and snacks to work with you. You've changed the way you shop at the grocery store. Passing by the fatty foods and heading directly for the organic and fresh foods.
Then you started exercising. When you don't have time to go to a gym,or can't afford it, you started doing some isometrics at home and work. You take the stairs instead of the elevator. You park at the end of the parking lot and walk the distance.

But what have you done to make your home a healthier environment? Research states that the air in our homes is much worse than the air outside, and that's even if you live in the city where pollution runs rampant. What can cause the air in your house to be so bad. For one thing, it is the fact that the house is closed up all the time. You should open your windows once in awhile. Fresh air is wonderful for you. Of course if you do live in a congested area, and there is a smog problem, you will want to do it on a day when they determine that the air quality is up.
Your house should be aired out as often as possible. Even if you have central heat and air, all they are doing is circulating, cooling or heating the air that is already inside the house. That means that all the stuff in that air is getting recirculated all the time. If you have an attic exhaust fan, it would be great to turn that on when you are airing your house out.
Vinegar and water is great for washing your counter tops, rinsing your dishes and washing your floors. A little baking soda on a wet rag will work just like a cleanser will in the bathroom, and leave it smelling fresher. Some slices of lemon in the bottom of your trash container will help keep it smelling fresh.
Set house plants around in each room. They take in carbon monoxide and release oxygen. They are great to look at and at the same time help to clear your air. Keep litter boxes on the back porch, or in the basement.
healthy living & healthy food only can give you happy life..

Is Bollywood future Hollywood?

Is it time for Bollywood -- as India's huge Mumbai-based film industry is called -- to come to America?

"International cinema comes in cycles in the United States," said Frank Lovece, a film critic with Film Journal International. "Now, it's Bollywood's time."

But "Slumdog" is a far cry from the lavish movie musicals made by Bollywood, which releases nearly 1,000 films annually. And it's not authentically Indian -- it was directed by Briton Danny Boyle, and the leading actor, Dev Patel, was born and raised in England.

However, the film is a celebration of India -- from the slums to the Taj Mahal. It pays homage to Bollywood by incorporating many of the industry's norms -- vibrant colors, fast-paced editing, a fairy-tale love story and a feel-good musical dance ending.
"Hindi film and Bollywood, in particular, is a profoundly political cinema about the crisis of the day," she said. "Today, the typical American feels like the poor in the world. ... This sense of vulnerability is what the film is able to capture."
Hollywood often has used international styles and filmmakers to its advantage. In its early days, the U.S. film capital embraced European directors such as Fritz Lang and Jean Renoir. The 1960s saw the influence of French New Wave cinema. Japanese films inspired "The Magnificent Seven" and "Star Wars"; Hong Kong works inspired Hollywood blockbusters such as "The Departed" and "The Matrix."

"Slumdog" isn't even the first film centering on India to attract Hollywood's attention
India's movie stars are essentially the country's ambassadors," said Gitesh Pandya, box-office analyst and founder of BoxOfficeGuru.com.
From Ray to Rai, Indian influence in American cinema is vast. Many Hollywood films also have been influenced by Bollywood. Baz Luhrman's 2001 musical "Moulin Rouge," a tragic romance told with song and dance, borrows heavily from Bollywood.

"These big, epic numbers are very reminiscent of Bollywood," Newman said, also referring to "Chicago," "Mama Mia!" and "West Side Story." "Musicals have always been part of the tradition of American cinema, and Bollywood really just took it to the next level."
Hollywood films such as 2008's "The Love Guru" and 2005's "The 40-Year-Old Virgin" --which ends with a musical dance number -- also borrow from Bollywood.
"India is still clinging on to its social values, which explains Bollywood's success everywhere but in America," she said. "Bollywood films don't have any kissing in them or tend not to. Warner Bros. used to make movies like this in the past. ... If it's ready to ready to return to its roots, then it's ready for Bollywood."

American audiences may want to explore Bollywood films after seeing "Slumdog Millionaire," Pandya said, but it is unlikely that they will find another film like it.

"The film is obviously very successful, but it is its own entity so it doesn't necessarily mean that people in this country will wake up to Bollywood overnight," he said. "Bollywood is not for everybody. ... People who love to see Adam Sandler movies are not going to line up to see Bollywood films."
Filmmakers have been enamored with Bollywood," he said. "They're investing over there, like [Steven] Spielberg." But in American cinema, "for the most part, there will be little tinges of Bollywood.

Elton John's Oscar party raises nearly $4 million
Elton John, in a show of gratitude, sang a couple of songs with the featured singer of evening Raphael Saadiq.
A good Hollywood party these days combines certain indispensable elements: a beautiful room filled with beautiful people, good food and drink, efficient valet parking -- and a cause.

At this year's Oscar parties, the cause element was especially important. (Oscar host Hugh Jackman wasn't the only entertainer who noticed that Oscar was throwing a glittering bash in hard times