Monday, January 26, 2009

Do you believe in fate and destiny

Few years ago, a nice man that I did not know much about has involved into a car accident and passed away instantly at the scene. I have met him once through his friend's introduction at a company Christmas party. That were the first and the last time that I have met him. The second time I attended an occasion that involved this man was his own funeral. The fate that linked this man and myself was like when I was in my car driving and he was like another driver next to me at one point then I just took a quick glance at him as he drove pass my car. Ever since his death, I could not take my mind off this misfortune.
He was cruising his motorcycle going uphill when another automobile from the other direction crashed into him. His body was ejected from his motorcycle into a ledge of a hill and broke his neck. Two witnesses stopped their cars came to him and called 911. These two witnesses were destined to be the last people who saw him shortly before he took his last breath. At the funeral, during the eulogy, his wife had shown her appreciation toward the two observers for being able to tell her that her husband has died peacefully without any pain. She quoted these two witnesses as her husband's "angels."
What does the above story had anything to do with destiny or fate? May be destiny is an active process for a person to work toward his/her fate? Fate could be described as an outcome and a predetermined and invariant factor. I do not know if fate happens accordingly to a fixed time line; but it seems to me that it represents a passive pathway, where every single one of us somehow is destined to pursue. By saying these, I did not refer fate as something negative. However, I do think that fate is unavoidable or inevitable.
Some people think, "I am in control of my life and destiny." People do have free will which people get to pick the way they want how their destinies to be. However, no matter what the choices and the path they have chosen, the outcome would still has been the same. How many people were born with the imprinted code in the brain for saying his/her life purpose in this world? When an individual was born, he or she were born along with a fixed schedule. God or "the author of the universe" whomever you want to call was the one who is responsible for writing a real time novel – a predestined lifetime story for that particular person. I believe that people are destined to have a role in this world and when they finished with their mission, they can be excused. The fixed schedule represents the list of where, what, when, and how a particular person executes his/her action accordingly. This might be a very passive and pessimistic thinking but the concept makes sense to me. If you ponder about the belief that I just mentioned, you might agree with what I just said.
Life is a mystery. Who would know precisely what the real meaning of life is? At this point of my existence, I genuinely do not know. Perhaps, when the time comes where I will be closed to the end, then God might open my mind. When that moment comes, he will allow me sit down at his special "theatre" and allows me to watch my own memoirs – from the moment when I was born to the moment when my soul leaves its host.
People in this universe are united and are met each other by fate. Life is just like a big movie theatre and everybody has his/her own character to play. Since you cannot modify the fact, then might as well join and act along with them. When this world end, the movie is over, or should I say when the individual dies, he/she will leave with the movie forever. I guess all the relationships between individuals during this lifetime only last once - may be!

Get-gorgeous ideas to get you set for the year ahead.

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you could be one of those people who love negotiating and get a discount on everything

Be a Better Negotiator
Did you ever wish you could be one of those people who love negotiating and get a discount on everything? Well, you can. All it takes is some knowledge of basic negotiating tactics and a little bit of guts. Follow these strategies and you'll be happily haggling in no time.
Inquire about a better price. Ask any great negotiator how she gets good deals and she'll likely shrug and say, "I just ask." The first step to any successful negotiation is making the choice to engage in one. The simple question "Can you give me a better price?" or "Is that the best price you can offer?" will often earn you an immediate discount on a product or service. Is that really all it takes? Sometimes, yes.
Ask for extras.
This is a good strategy to use with a small, independently owned business. If they're already making a sale, they're more likely to sweeten the deal with a little something extra. But again, you have to ask: "If I buy the skirt, the two tops, and the belt, can you throw in the earrings for free?" The worst they can say is no.
Offer to pay in cash up front.
This is a great tactic to try with party vendors, small-business owners, and entrepreneurs. Cash up front saves them from credit-card fees and the potential for bounced checks or late payments. If you can afford to do it, paying early and in cash will often win you a significant discount -- just be sure to get a receipt!
Do your homework. When dealing with a large national chain store, car dealer, hotel, or bank, your best negotiating tactic is your knowledge of the competition's pricing. Searching online for other stores' prices can give you a leg up -- especially if you bring a printout of a better price from a competitor with you. Stores will often match the better price, even if it comes from an Internet-based competitor.
This is also an important strategy when negotiating salary or benefits from a potential employer. Research your industry, region, and competitors' salary ranges ( and are two good sources) so you are not picking a number out of the ether. Information is power -- use it.
Blame the negotiation on someone else.
This is called the "empty chair" technique -- pretending that an absent third party is forcing the negotiation, not you. Car dealers are masters at this strategy ("I'll have to bring that number to my sales manager"). This saves you from looking like the bad guy. Try something like this: "My boss/partner/manager/investor won't like that number, but I can probably persuade her to accept 10 percent lower. Can you do that?"
Be nice.
One of the most unsuccessful negotiating tactics is anger. Yelling, complaining, or threatening will annoy the other party and make them far less willing to cut you a break. Personality and friendliness count.
Be willing to walk away.
Finally, the best negotiators have a bottom line and are willing to walk away if they don't get what they want. Detachment is a great negotiation strategy. If you want something too much, the seller or employer can smell your desperation and is less inclined to bargain.

How to Achieve implementation in life..

Achieve Fulfillment
It's completely natural to hold deep thoughts. However, this becomes unnatural when this is all a person has to fill their life. By offering more and caring about the truly important matters in life, you will get so vastly more in return.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with getting excited about the smaller things in life. If waiting for your monthly magazine subscription or looking forward to your favourite television programme puts a smile on your face, then that's a good thing. What's not so great is when deeply shallow people don't have anything more to offer. They also have nothing more to gain.
Take a leaf out of Craig Busch and Karen Grey Brook's book. They run Zion Wildlife Garden's in New Zealand, a renowned sanctuary for big cat's. Both are unbelievably inspirational and highly dedicated individuals who, for four years lived in one bedroom ex-quarantine facility in the park. They are a publicly funded organisation which allows them to preserve such a remarkable species. No doubt they enjoy the simple things in life but that's ok because they possess such a giving nature that the rewards themselves reap the benefits.
Those who hold no significant meaning or value just simply end up coasting through life. Some may feel fine with this but those who constantly feel empty won't achieve fulfilment unless they do something about it. There are many ways in which we can all make a difference, even if it isn't something on a grand scale. Some times in life, the best things are the simple things.
Making a difference doesn't necessarily mean having to spend a lot of money or give up too much valuable free time, maybe even none at all. Find something that you feel passionate about and persevere with it. Trust me, it will make your life seem full. There isn't really such a thing as a selfless act but that's ok. Just by carrying out a good deed, it's still a good deed even if it makes you feel good about yourself. In my opinion, it's even better because not only do you help someone else but you help yourself too and there's nothing wrong with that.
If everyone in the world only cared about superficial things such as designer labels, fancy cars, posh houses, etc, it would be a very selfish and uncaring society. Yet if a person was to also care about deeper things in life such as poverty, child and animal cruelty, homelessness, etc, then it would make caring about shallow things seem less insignificant.
So, start by donating some of those superficial possessions to charity, volunteer at a shelter, help those less fortunate because if the shoe was on the other foot, wouldn't you want to live in a more caring society and be helped by those luckier than yourself?