Tuesday, March 17, 2009

Living being Happier

provide yourself consent to be human.When we accept emotions — such as fear, sadness, or worry — as natural, we are more likely to overcome them. Rejecting our emotions, positive or negative, leads to frustration and unhappiness.

Happiness lies at the connection between pleasure and meaning.Whether at work or at home, the goal is to engage in activities that are both personally significant and enjoyable. When this is not feasible, make sure you have happiness boosters, moments all through the week that provide you with both pleasure and meaning.

Q: Do you believe the first 30 days of change are vital to living a happier life?

A: Absolutely, because you need to begin creating a new pathway in your brain to think differently.At any given moment, we have a choice about how we interpret reality. The brain is a meaning-making machine. It takes in data and interprets it, filters it and makes a story out of the information it allows in. That story has everything to do with whether we're happy or not. It's incredibly simple. Every single moment, we have the choice to take the raw material and tell ourselves a story that makes us miserable, or a story that makes us happy.

Q: During the first 30 days being happier, should people focus on stopping negative thoughts or promoting positive thoughts?

A: It goes hand in hand, like driving a car -- you have a brake and a gas pedal. Feelings follow thoughts, activating a chemical cascade in our minds. We think certain things and that creates a biochemical reaction in our brains that either releases stress hormones or feel-good hormones. So when you find yourself thinking negatively, stop and think of a positive explanation, interpretation or outcome. That way you build a pathway in your brain for thinking "up." It's about teaching your mind to think about what's right and good.
Q: Is happiness a habit, and thus, is unhappiness a habit?

A: Absolutely. The research shows that 50% of it is genetic, meaning we have a set point of biochemical happiness or unhappiness. But the other 50% is made up of habits that we created in our brain that we can change. It doesn't matter what your set point is. It doesn't matter how you got this way. Understanding why is the booby prize. The real question is: What do we do from here? That's when we have freedom.

Q: Is that how you rewire your brain from thinking negatively?

A: Yes -- don't feed it any more negativity. The more time you spend telling yourself your old sad story, such as "my mother was an alcoholic and she used to yell at me," the more you drive that misery into your brain. But the more you say, "OK, that was that, now what am I going to choose to think about to change that?," then you start to pay attention to what you can enjoy.

Q: What is the relationship between happiness and the actions one performs?

A: The brain learns and changes from experiences. It doesn't change from reading or listening -- it changes by doing things. It has to be an action and you have to be able to measure it, so you can see that you're doing it. People try without measuring, but if you tell your brain you're going to do this for the rest of your life, it gets very confused and says, "Oh no, that's too hard." Lots of times people come to me and say they want to learn how to be happy and I say, "Well, what are you going to do?" If you don't know, then you're not going to get happier.
Q: How many changes should people make during the first 30 days of being happier?

A: People try to do too much. That's one of the key reasons they don't succeed. Remember, you need to come up with a measurement. In 30 days, get one thing that you really nail in and the more that you practice that one thing, the more bang for your buck you're going to get in terms of actual results you'll be proud of.
Q: How can people choose the correct changes that will make them happier?

A: This is about what you need to work on. There are two things that are highly correlated with happiness: One is contentment and the other is fulfillment. The path of contentment includes the practice of gratitude -- which allows us to become aware of the goodness in our lives and helps us connect and be kind to others -- and the art of savoring -- which is about appreciating the goodness in the present moment, the bird singing outside your window, the wind blowing. The path of fulfillment is about our life's purpose, about using our gifts on behalf of something that has meaning to us.

Q: How important is it to learn from your mistakes to be happier in the first 30 days and beyond?

A: Actually, I think it's more about learning from your successes. Those are the things you want to focus on. The brain works better by paying attention to what's right. Don't turn goof ups into give ups. We're extremely good at paying attention to all the ways in which we screwed up. This is why people don't change. As soon as they don't do it perfectly, they say, "I can't do this." Instead, pay attention to when you did it right, even if it was only once. I know that sitting with my feet up on the couch for 10 minutes at the end of the day to think about what I did well makes me happier and I only did it once this week.

Do you want Looking Younger and Healthier?

keep you ever green....Best Advice for Looking Younger and Healthier..
Looking younger is all about how you feel inside. When you reveal your inner health, you bloom with natural beauty and bounce about the world showing a verve for life that conveys a message of youth. How do you enhance your own energy levels and feel healthy? Follow these tips for using skin products, hair products, diet products, exercise products and fashionable clothing.
Skin Products to Look Ten Years Younger and Feel Healthier
To delay aging, start when young to care for your skin. Before you reach the teenage years, start using a light moisturizer on your skin to protect from the effects of sun. Sun protection products like Coppertone, Hawaiian Tropic and Nivea can protect against later skin cancer but also against wrinkles.

When you enter puberty, switch to an oil-free moisturizer for your skin. If you think that because you have so much oil produced by your body during these years that a moisturizer won’t help, you’re wrong. An oil-free moisturizer like Almay’s will replace moisture stripped from your cells by harsh acne treatments, will protect your pores from collecting acne producing dirt and will sop up some of the excess oil.

Using a face powder during these years will also sop up oil and keep the shine off your face.

After adolescence, slowly move from a light moisturizer for normal skin to a deep moisturizer, like Physician’s Formula. Use a hypo-allergenic, non-comeogenic moisturizer to have as little impact on your skin as possible.
Keep makeup to a minimum needed to even out skin tone and highlight your best features. Your best blush is your natural one.

Hair Products to Look Ten Years Younger and Feel Healthier
The truth about hair dye is it is really harsh on your hair.

Nothing makes you look older than to have frayed hair ends and dull tones. A dye such as that helps bring out your natural tones and shine will make you look younger. A trick learned from a hairdresser is to use a semi-permanent dye such as , then touch up with short term herbal remedies that keep the gray covered. As you age, make sure your hair color lightens in an imperceptible way that makes the inevitable acceptance of gray hair natural.

To protect your hair, use a conditioner that is suited to your hair’s oiliness and the amount of chemicals you use on your hair. Products such as that are designed for use with hair color products helps the dye last longer.
Diet Products to Look Younger and Feel Healthier
Adequate sleep and good health will make you look and feel younger. Use StressTab daily vitamin to protect you from loss of vitamins that wash out of your body. Use an iron or mineral supplement if your doctor suggests it. During menopause, using estrogen or soy-products can ensure you get adequate sleep.
Products to Make Your Legs Look Younger and Feel Healthier
Some people have genetic problems with varicose veins and should use support hose like that offered by L’eggs to protect themselves from problems in later life. Most people look younger if they take a walk daily. Flabby or knotty muscles will make you look older. Learn Yoga from x and use the stretched to keep your muscles energized and smooth.
Wear Sports Clothing to Look Younger and Feel Healthier
Sports clothing stretches with your movements, breathes and feels comfortable on your body. Nothing dates a person more than clothing that looks twenty years old, stuffy, or constricting. Make sure your clothing allows you to walk to all the places you want to go.
Wear Glasses with a Tint or Sunglasses to Look Younger and Feel Healthier

Protect your eyes from wrinkles caused by squinting by keeping an up to date prescription lens and using a tinted les or sunglasses to protect from sunlight.
Wear Support Underwear to Look Younger and Feel Healthier
As your waistline bulges and your breasts looking perky, use a bra with adequate support such as Maidenform or and a higher waist swimsuit bottom and underpants, especially ones that offer light support such as those sold at JC Penney . Wear mock turtlenecks to hide neck wrinkles.

Minimize Your Display of Wealth to Look Younger and Feel Healthier.

Nothing says old and settled more than large jewels and big pocket books. If it weighs you down, you look older. And best of all, being uncluttered makes you safer and much more free.
So dress young, act young, think young, move and breathe and let in all the health and energy the world has to offer, this is the best time of your life