Thursday, April 30, 2009

Love and marriage was supposed to be forever.

When we are single we are so jealous of the couples we see on the streets but as soon as we manage to get a partner, the single life starts to call for us again.


The first reason to break up is jealously. We always fear our partner is going to leave us or is already sleeping with someone else. This is out biggest thought and the nightmare that keeps chasing us day and night. How do we get rid of it? If you cannot trust your partner with your life or you cannot trust her 100% percent just drop her like a stone. She is not worth a single second of your life. You are wasting time with her that could be much better spent with another great girl.

The second reason is money. When you are living with your couple, 70% of arguments will be about money according to Dale Carnegie Book How to Stop Worrying and Start Living. If you both cannot manage your money together, you are in serious trouble. One possible solution might be frequenting a seminar about that.

Third reason is the bad sex. If you cannot satisfy your partner sexually or if she cannot satisfy you, you will end that relationship soon or later. Reading a good book or teasing your partner might help it

Forth and last reason is the past. What you partner had done in her past will be something she will carry with her forever and you too and there is no way around.

If your partner was engaged in drugs, prostitution or assaults, you know you will always be one step back with her and always fearing she will lower herself again.
Love looks ideal, but only on the other side of the barrier.
When you cross the river, the green land turns dark, and the land you left, turns green.

Diet and a lifestyle change....

Differences among a diet and a lifestyle change.........
As happy as I was to only gain two pounds last week, of course, I'm much happier to have lost six this week. And it's hard to ignore a pattern I've seen over the past 14 months - almost every time I've posted a gain for a week, it's been followed by a loss, and often a significant one.

What's it mean? I can't really take much away except "Stick to it!"

When I gained last week, I focused on the other ways that I had succeeded and forced myself to start my new week with a good attitude and a clean slate. This week was a really good one regarding both food and exercise and I even managed some indulgences -- nachos, a mozzarella stick, a half of an egg roll and ice cream were my splurges of choice.

Again, I think it all comes down to the same thing I keep harping on - this is a lifestyle change. And I find a lifestyle change mindset to be very different from a diet mindset.

Here's what I mean:

On a diet, there's a start, which means there's also an end. How you act after you feel like you've reached the end could undermine all the hard work you've done.

With a lifestyle change, you're committing to permanent change. You have to work to find the changes you can live with for the rest of your life. Results may be more gradual because you're not cutting out everything "bad," but I think they'll also be more lasting.

On a diet, you're either on a program or off it. Every time you slip up, you might feel like you've screwed it up, which could trigger feelings of failure and cause you to give up entirely.

With a lifestyle change, ups and downs are par for the course. We see this in our entire lives, why wouldn't we see it with how we eat and exercise?

On a diet, the main measure of success is often the numbers on the scale. A loss is a reason for celebration; a gain is a reason to wonder what went wrong and judge ourselves.

With a lifestyle change, it's easier to put things in perspective. Yes, reporting my loss or gain is the first thing I do here each week, but I also try to look beyond the numbers on the scale to gauge my success. There are so many reasons that you might gain weight in a given week that have nothing to do with if you did anything "wrong"... our bodies are confusing things! Sodium, exercise, menstruation - they can all complicate what the scale tells you. But when you look at your changes in the context of your whole life, successes are easier to find - going down in clothing sizes, feeling energized, breathing better, etc. And when you focus on the big picture, it's easier to put temporary gains in perspective and get past them - I may have gained two pounds last week, but that's no reason to undo more than 80 pounds of loss! And this week I'm especially happy that I didn't let last week derail me!