Monday, January 19, 2009

Keeping Your Head in a disaster

If you are feeling worried or stressed then this article will help you to gain a sense of balance. Tried and tested methods for reaching a state where you can keep your head in a crisis when all around you are trailing theirs.
There is an art to keeping your head when everyone around you is losing theirs. The secret is in how you conduct yourself on a day to day basis. If you’re not sure whether you would be able to keep your head in a crisis then you would benefit from the advice in this article. Read on.
Whingers, Worriers, and What’s All the Fuss About.
Generally speaking when it comes to a crisis, or an impending crisis, there are three broad types of reactions.
Type one are the whingers. Whingers are the sort of people who go around spreading the bad news. If someone comes up to you and says “Oh dear, it’s awful, have you heard…” then you can reasonably assume that you are dealing with a whinger. Whingers like nothing more than to spend their time spreading bad news and getting other people to feel miserable with them. There are exceptions to this but as a rule the only way to deal with a whinger is to say never mind and then get on with what you are doing. Don’t buy into their misery, they really can make a drama out of a spring shower.
Type two are the worriers. Worriers are more of a nuisance to themselves than anyone else. They can make themselves thoroughly miserable over what might happen and spoil a pretty good day. It is pointless telling them not to worry. The only thing you can do is refuse to worry along with them. In some cases they will swallow their surprise at your seemingly hardened attitude and may take a leaf out of your book. In which case their lives will be easier and you don’t have to listen to what bothers them.
Finally there are those people who simply wonder what the fuss is all about. These are generally the kinds of people who are able to keep their heads in a crisis. So what do you have to do to become a person who wants to know what all the fuss is about so that they can help put it right?

Apart from the above advice regarding whingers and worriers, there are a three other steps you can take to make your life easier and help you to keep your head in a crisis.
Methods to Avoid Losing Your Head
However busy you are always take some time at the end of the day to review its happenings and to make a list of things that you are thankful for. It might be a baby’s smile, a nice meal, a sunny day, or whatever else you regard as good in your life. Just write down how grateful you are for those things and read through the lists often. What you can develop from this is an attitude of gratitude which will color how you look at the rest of life.
Recognize the following, you cannot control other people’s behavior, the weather simply is, time itself is not a problem, it is what you do with it that matters. It is ok to fail, everyone makes mistakes, just shrug your shoulders and start again. If a job is worth doing then it’s worth doing badly. This is not an injunction not to be bothered, but to recognize that we are imperfect beings in a less than perfect world and if a job drags on the only way forward is to get it done as best you can, badly even.
Always take some time in the day for yourself, no matter what is going on. You can’t help others if there is no store to give from. Don’t feel you have to justify your every action. If you know you’ve made a mistake then admit it and move on, don’t let others drag you into their manipulation of you.

Take all this simple advice on board. If you do these things consistently then not only will you feel better about yourself and the world in general, if a crisis does occur, you’ll find it much easier to keep your head while all around you are loosing theirs.

No comments: